Beautifully Broken.

       This post is in continuation of 'The Naked Soul'       

I fell in discussion with a friend over falling in love with a broken soul. And this was after he had read 'The Naked Soul'. Off lately, he has been getting over this girl he thought was ‘’the’’ one until he found out that she was a divorce and was too ‘damaged’. Yes, those were the exact words. I got offended but then I became sure that he had been so perfect in his life that imperfection/ brokenness gave his soul a shiver. So I told him a few facts; facts of loving a broken soul. And he somehow could not speak while I told him how it was the most beautiful experience to fall in love with one.


‘’It isn’t about just loving her. it’s about teaching her that she did not deserve what happened to her in the past. Respect her brokenness. She never wanted to meet someone who could point out her flaws. Neither was she waiting for someone to put her back together. She learned to love herself the way she wished other people had. She learned to own her flaws herself, the one’s she used to reject. She learned to have confidence in what is broken, not letting what could be missing in her life, define her.

You don’t have to save her. Instead, run your fingers along her sharp edges and show her it doesn’t have to hurt. Show her that there is someone who will stay, even when the sea is rough, times are hard. Show her it doesn’t matter what happened or with who, what matters is that she is still alive and more beautiful than ever and the two of you are there right now.


Teach her that she can trust someone other than herself. Because until now she’s been the number one person she can rely on. Teach her that not everyone will hurt her. Teach her that not everyone will leave. In return, she will doubt you. She will question you and second guess things. She will want more than anything to run the other way. Don’t let her. The only reason she is running is because she wants to beat you to it. The only reason she’s running is because she wants to look back and finally see someone chasing her.


But trust me when I say she’s worth the effort. Because once she trusts you, she’ll love you harder than you ever thought someone could. She’ll redefine what you thought love meant. You’ll meet her and you’ll never be the same.
 
So before you take on the challenge of loving someone broken, ask yourself, ‘are you willing to endure everything that comes with it?’.

But most of all you should ask yourself, can you appreciate a woman like her, and more importantly, can you love her the way she has always deserved to be loved.? Ask yourself these questions and then my friend, if that broken soul does not still make you stop thinking and just loving her, then no my friend, you are not worth her.


You are not worth her brokenness."