Heya fellow 'perfect' people
Happy Tuesday!!
I am sure most of you must be on their Job's and cursing that it is just Tuesday after a dreadful Monday, right? well, if you are having Tuesday blues then let me tell you that I am working/studying from my cozy sunny hostel room. haha.. yes! my course took a break from on campus here in Jaipur and currently I am studying online. so I get time to update my blog and get more interesting stories from my diaries, for you all to read and relate!
STATUTORY WARNING: DO NOT TAKE THE CONTENT PERSONALLY.
we are different people with different thoughts and opinion and no opinion is right or wrong. here is mine, would love to know yours too.
Did you read the title? funny? strange? what do you think about Casual Relationship's, which are uprising these days? I know this is not in sync with the backdrop of my theme of write ups but, a friend yesterday asked me what was my take/thoughts about this. so I thought why not talk about it here! drop in your thoughts/arguments below in the comment section but for now, hear me out!
*wink*
So, what is the fuss about 'casual' relationships, colloquially known as a 'Fling'? how come people are becoming so open and favoring uncommitted emotional/sexual encounters which, are becoming progressively more engrained in popular culture, reflecting both evolved emotional/sexual predilections and changing social scripts?
In today's time, the themes of books, plots of movies and television shows, and lyrics of numerous songs, all demonstrate a permissive sexuality amongst the audience. how many of you are Katy Perry fans here? her song, Last Friday Night (T.G.I.F) goes something like this:
there's a stranger in my bed
there's a pounding in my head
glitter all over the room
Pink flamingos in the pool
I smell like a minibar
DJ's passed out in the yard
Barbies on the barbecue
Is this a hickey or a bruise
I very much belong to this generation who finds a committed relationship very time consuming and so, prefers a 'fling'. Being a Doctor I read a lot of papers, research papers. and during one of my random surfing of some Psychology papers, I was surprised that there was a published study by the American Psychology Association on the psychology behind the choice people make.
When I sit and think about the emerging trend of these 'No Strings Attached' relationships, some very serious questions daunt me. do people interested in these not believe in true love? Is 'true love' a sham? are people not considerate for others feelings? what, is it the fear of commitment or fear of taking responsibilities? I believe it's both.
Today's generation (I am very much a part of it) do not want to take responsibilities for anything. we look out for ourselves and that already is a daunting job. so why opt for taking someone else's responsibility? and yes a relationship comes with one.this is also the reason why marriages are broken so fast and nuclear families are more in fashion than large joint families. then there is fear of commitment. what if I do not feel for him/her the same after a while? what if I find some one else more appealing? these thoughts shoo us away from committing ourselves to one person.
And what about 'true love'? after struggling for so long to come to a conclusion myself, I can now say that that there is nothing called 'true love'. because what is true to me, might not be true to u. truth differs for everyone and so does love. 'love' in itself is losing its touch.
There was a time, maybe when our parents or grandparents got married, when saying 'i love you' or merely showing affection to someone was counted as a major deal. a lot of Bollywood movies showcase that. remember in Love Aaj Kal, how Saif Ali Khan is beaten up by the girls family when he chases her down at the station just to see her once and stop her from leaving Delhi? yeah. that is what I am talking about. and today, we say 'I love you' to even a pizza delivery boy who gets your order before time! true!
It is being opted by both Men and Women but, women for some reason can not handle casual relationships. blame the oxytocin or whatever but from what I've seen and dealt with, they always want more. they lie to men that they don't want a relationship because apparently, that would be a social suicide, and try to act like they don't care, are very cool about him seeing other girls where in reality they are dying inside. I think it's immoral for them to dishonor their feelings and torture themselves by denying their true nature. there is nothing wrong in 'falling' for someone. and there is nothing wrong in telling someone that they are special and loved. everyone deserves to know that they are special for someone.
Oh! I just realized its 14th February, Valentine's Day (my WhatsApp group just pinged and i was reminded) and I have been talking about flings and casual hook up and true love! oh my, that was something ironic *rolling eyes*
Well, I guess it is enough of my thoughts about 'No Strings Attached' and time to hear some of yours.
for now, go ahead and plan that perfect evening for your someone special or a proposal for that guy/girl who stole your heart away while I get back to studying!
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!
Make the day 'perfect' for your loved one.
Happy Tuesday!!
I am sure most of you must be on their Job's and cursing that it is just Tuesday after a dreadful Monday, right? well, if you are having Tuesday blues then let me tell you that I am working/studying from my cozy sunny hostel room. haha.. yes! my course took a break from on campus here in Jaipur and currently I am studying online. so I get time to update my blog and get more interesting stories from my diaries, for you all to read and relate!
STATUTORY WARNING: DO NOT TAKE THE CONTENT PERSONALLY.
we are different people with different thoughts and opinion and no opinion is right or wrong. here is mine, would love to know yours too.
Did you read the title? funny? strange? what do you think about Casual Relationship's, which are uprising these days? I know this is not in sync with the backdrop of my theme of write ups but, a friend yesterday asked me what was my take/thoughts about this. so I thought why not talk about it here! drop in your thoughts/arguments below in the comment section but for now, hear me out!
*wink*
So, what is the fuss about 'casual' relationships, colloquially known as a 'Fling'? how come people are becoming so open and favoring uncommitted emotional/sexual encounters which, are becoming progressively more engrained in popular culture, reflecting both evolved emotional/sexual predilections and changing social scripts?
In today's time, the themes of books, plots of movies and television shows, and lyrics of numerous songs, all demonstrate a permissive sexuality amongst the audience. how many of you are Katy Perry fans here? her song, Last Friday Night (T.G.I.F) goes something like this:
there's a stranger in my bed
there's a pounding in my head
glitter all over the room
Pink flamingos in the pool
I smell like a minibar
DJ's passed out in the yard
Barbies on the barbecue
Is this a hickey or a bruise
I very much belong to this generation who finds a committed relationship very time consuming and so, prefers a 'fling'. Being a Doctor I read a lot of papers, research papers. and during one of my random surfing of some Psychology papers, I was surprised that there was a published study by the American Psychology Association on the psychology behind the choice people make.
When I sit and think about the emerging trend of these 'No Strings Attached' relationships, some very serious questions daunt me. do people interested in these not believe in true love? Is 'true love' a sham? are people not considerate for others feelings? what, is it the fear of commitment or fear of taking responsibilities? I believe it's both.
Today's generation (I am very much a part of it) do not want to take responsibilities for anything. we look out for ourselves and that already is a daunting job. so why opt for taking someone else's responsibility? and yes a relationship comes with one.this is also the reason why marriages are broken so fast and nuclear families are more in fashion than large joint families. then there is fear of commitment. what if I do not feel for him/her the same after a while? what if I find some one else more appealing? these thoughts shoo us away from committing ourselves to one person.
And what about 'true love'? after struggling for so long to come to a conclusion myself, I can now say that that there is nothing called 'true love'. because what is true to me, might not be true to u. truth differs for everyone and so does love. 'love' in itself is losing its touch.
There was a time, maybe when our parents or grandparents got married, when saying 'i love you' or merely showing affection to someone was counted as a major deal. a lot of Bollywood movies showcase that. remember in Love Aaj Kal, how Saif Ali Khan is beaten up by the girls family when he chases her down at the station just to see her once and stop her from leaving Delhi? yeah. that is what I am talking about. and today, we say 'I love you' to even a pizza delivery boy who gets your order before time! true!
It is being opted by both Men and Women but, women for some reason can not handle casual relationships. blame the oxytocin or whatever but from what I've seen and dealt with, they always want more. they lie to men that they don't want a relationship because apparently, that would be a social suicide, and try to act like they don't care, are very cool about him seeing other girls where in reality they are dying inside. I think it's immoral for them to dishonor their feelings and torture themselves by denying their true nature. there is nothing wrong in 'falling' for someone. and there is nothing wrong in telling someone that they are special and loved. everyone deserves to know that they are special for someone.
Oh! I just realized its 14th February, Valentine's Day (my WhatsApp group just pinged and i was reminded) and I have been talking about flings and casual hook up and true love! oh my, that was something ironic *rolling eyes*
Well, I guess it is enough of my thoughts about 'No Strings Attached' and time to hear some of yours.
for now, go ahead and plan that perfect evening for your someone special or a proposal for that guy/girl who stole your heart away while I get back to studying!
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!
Make the day 'perfect' for your loved one.
Well ummm I don't know what to say...But there was me somewhere inside it...Who needs both.. Nice
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ReplyDeleteSaurabh thanks for reading and sharing your desires, if I may say.
And I would second your thought here, i also wanted both at some point of time. But that was a fleeting phase and now all I look for is Security and peace.
Hoping that you get yours if not yet there.
Love